• I Regret Being Disrespectful To My Mom: Here’s How We Communicate Now

    It seems like it’s pretty common for mothers and daughters to struggle with communication. Living with someone in close quarters can create tension. My mom and I are certainly no exception. As both incredibly strong-willed women who enjoy argument (you know it’s true, Mom! LOL), we were at odds a good bit of the time, when I was growing up. Neither of us usually ever backed down and we both almost always wanted the last word. Little did I know that my mother actually does know best, and it would have done me some good to listen every now and then. In high school, my attitude progressed to its worst…

  • I Silenced My Voice and Lost My Authenticity

    I had an aching feeling that people didn’t know the real me. I felt like each day I was treated and talked to in ways that didn’t reflect who I was at all. As much as I hated this and I couldn’t be fully myself, I struggled to use my voice to speak up and communicate who I was with the world around me. I was afraid of losing the comfortable sense of identity that I had gained among my friends and acquaintances. But at the same time, I wanted desperately to be myself. It felt like I was a caricature of what others thought of me. I envied those…

  • 6 Tips to Start Speaking Your Mind

    Assertive communication involves getting your point across in the most direct and open way possible, while still remaining cool and collected. It takes confidence to put your thoughts into clear words. Click here to first learn more about how to strengthen your confidence. Just the idea of being assertive can absolutely feel intimidating. When you do so, you’re allowing yourself to be vulnerable, which is probably you’re real fear: not being assertive. When you’re young, speaking up against the school bully sounds like the last thing you want to partake in. It may be that you’re still afraid to speak up to or against others now, as an adult. Some…

  • Are You Really Listening?

    Public speaking and the fear of doing so is something people commonly discuss, but something not quite as frequently mentioned is the act of listening. When I refer to listening, I’m not solely alluding to the act of using the ears and brain to take in and process information. I’m talking about being a good audience member, a good friend, and a good confidant. Your status as a good or bad listener may be determining the success of your social, work, and romantic lives. But don’t fret! You can improve. “When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” Ernest Hemingway “When you talk, you are only repeating what you…