• I Silenced My Voice and Lost My Authenticity

    I had an aching feeling that people didn’t know the real me. I felt like each day I was treated and talked to in ways that didn’t reflect who I was at all. As much as I hated this and I couldn’t be fully myself, I struggled to use my voice to speak up and communicate who I was with the world around me. I was afraid of losing the comfortable sense of identity that I had gained among my friends and acquaintances. But at the same time, I wanted desperately to be myself. It felt like I was a caricature of what others thought of me. I envied those…

  • 6 Tips to Start Speaking Your Mind

    Assertive communication involves getting your point across in the most direct and open way possible, while still remaining cool and collected. It takes confidence to put your thoughts into clear words. Click here to first learn more about how to strengthen your confidence. Just the idea of being assertive can absolutely feel intimidating. When you do so, you’re allowing yourself to be vulnerable, which is probably you’re real fear: not being assertive. When you’re young, speaking up against the school bully sounds like the last thing you want to partake in. It may be that you’re still afraid to speak up to or against others now, as an adult. Some…

  • How To Create Confidence

    Very few people are born with natural, unbreakable confidence. The rest of us are forced to create it pretty much out of thin air… or we never do. The choice is ours. Of course, I’m talking about self-confidence in this context. It’s defined by the Oxford Dictionary as, “a feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.” Embodying confidence isn’t as difficult as you might believe. At some point in your life, you’ve probably had someone tell you to “fake it ’til you make it.” To some degree, I do agree with this sentiment. When you’re trying to build up your confidence, faking it is…