• I Regret Being Disrespectful To My Mom: Here’s How We Communicate Now

    It seems like it’s pretty common for mothers and daughters to struggle with communication. Living with someone in close quarters can create tension. My mom and I are certainly no exception. As both incredibly strong-willed women who enjoy argument (you know it’s true, Mom! LOL), we were at odds a good bit of the time, when I was growing up. Neither of us usually ever backed down and we both almost always wanted the last word. Little did I know that my mother actually does know best, and it would have done me some good to listen every now and then. In high school, my attitude progressed to its worst…

  • How I Make a Positive First Impression Every Time

    When I was younger, I had no inclination of the importance of a good first impression. I was full of awkwardness and emotions and completely unsure of how to deal with it all, which probably applied to all of us at some point. Allowing negativity to take over, I feared change and resisted making any effort at the beginning of new friendships and relationships. I later realized that the more negativity I put into the world, the more I negativity I got back. The better choice would have been to allow love and friendship into my life, which would have sooner facilitated my self-growth. I’ve learned that starting off on…

  • 4 Ways To Be Zen Like The Buddha

    “Conquer anger with non-anger. Conquer badness with goodness. Conquer meanness with generosity. Conquer dishonesty with truth.” The Buddha, The Dhammapada Siddhartha Gautama, whom you probably know as the Buddha, was born on this day, 2,641 years ago, and was a pure embodiment of peace and transcendence in a ruthless world. He was a true representation of an excellent communicator, comforting his listeners, and ultimately inspiring and motivating them to become the best versions of themselves, continuing to influence individuals’ way of thinking two millennia after his passing. What is “Zen” anyway? Zen Buddhism, born out of China, is one of the many branches of Buddhism, similar to the relationship between…

  • I Silenced My Voice and Lost My Authenticity

    I had an aching feeling that people didn’t know the real me. I felt like each day I was treated and talked to in ways that didn’t reflect who I was at all. As much as I hated this and I couldn’t be fully myself, I struggled to use my voice to speak up and communicate who I was with the world around me. I was afraid of losing the comfortable sense of identity that I had gained among my friends and acquaintances. But at the same time, I wanted desperately to be myself. It felt like I was a caricature of what others thought of me. I envied those…

  • How to Really Apologize

    Saying you’re sorry can feel incredibly intimidating, especially if your pride is exceptionally strong, which can get in the way of the ability to be fully sympathetic with another person in conflict. The good news is there’s a way to improve And, what exactly makes an apology sincere? Emotional display is key for the success of your apology. If you’re angry or on the verge of tears, your apology probably won’t be received the way you intend, no matter how pure your intentions are. You can research and try all kinds of ways to get yourself into the right mindset for an apology. The fastest and easiest way to obtain…

  • 6 Tips to Start Speaking Your Mind

    Assertive communication involves getting your point across in the most direct and open way possible, while still remaining cool and collected. It takes confidence to put your thoughts into clear words. Click here to first learn more about how to strengthen your confidence. Just the idea of being assertive can absolutely feel intimidating. When you do so, you’re allowing yourself to be vulnerable, which is probably you’re real fear: not being assertive. When you’re young, speaking up against the school bully sounds like the last thing you want to partake in. It may be that you’re still afraid to speak up to or against others now, as an adult. Some…

  • How To Create Confidence

    Very few people are born with natural, unbreakable confidence. The rest of us are forced to create it pretty much out of thin air… or we never do. The choice is ours. Of course, I’m talking about self-confidence in this context. It’s defined by the Oxford Dictionary as, “a feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.” Embodying confidence isn’t as difficult as you might believe. At some point in your life, you’ve probably had someone tell you to “fake it ’til you make it.” To some degree, I do agree with this sentiment. When you’re trying to build up your confidence, faking it is…

  • Are You Really Listening?

    Public speaking and the fear of doing so is something people commonly discuss, but something not quite as frequently mentioned is the act of listening. When I refer to listening, I’m not solely alluding to the act of using the ears and brain to take in and process information. I’m talking about being a good audience member, a good friend, and a good confidant. Your status as a good or bad listener may be determining the success of your social, work, and romantic lives. But don’t fret! You can improve. “When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” Ernest Hemingway “When you talk, you are only repeating what you…

  • Can You Really Communicate Through Currency?

    “Every time you spend money, you’re casting a vote for the kind of world you want.” Anne Lappe “How you spend your money is how you vote on what exists in the world.” Vicki Robin As much as I wholeheartedly agree with these brilliant women quoted above, I prefer to use a different word, rather than “vote,” to describe this transaction. “Communication,” rather, fully encompasses what conscious shopping means. Not only are you affecting the economy when you shop, but you are also expressing to others what you stand for, and what you don’t. Life can sometimes feel monotonous, as though we are just moving through the motions. We may…