• 4 Ways To Be Zen Like The Buddha

    “Conquer anger with non-anger. Conquer badness with goodness. Conquer meanness with generosity. Conquer dishonesty with truth.” The Buddha, The Dhammapada Siddhartha Gautama, whom you probably know as the Buddha, was born on this day, 2,641 years ago, and was a pure embodiment of peace and transcendence in a ruthless world. He was a true representation of an excellent communicator, comforting his listeners, and ultimately inspiring and motivating them to become the best versions of themselves, continuing to influence individuals’ way of thinking two millennia after his passing. What is “Zen” anyway? Zen Buddhism, born out of China, is one of the many branches of Buddhism, similar to the relationship between…

  • I Silenced My Voice and Lost My Authenticity

    I had an aching feeling that people didn’t know the real me. I felt like each day I was treated and talked to in ways that didn’t reflect who I was at all. As much as I hated this and I couldn’t be fully myself, I struggled to use my voice to speak up and communicate who I was with the world around me. I was afraid of losing the comfortable sense of identity that I had gained among my friends and acquaintances. But at the same time, I wanted desperately to be myself. It felt like I was a caricature of what others thought of me. I envied those…

  • How To Create Confidence

    Very few people are born with natural, unbreakable confidence. The rest of us are forced to create it pretty much out of thin air… or we never do. The choice is ours. Of course, I’m talking about self-confidence in this context. It’s defined by the Oxford Dictionary as, “a feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.” Embodying confidence isn’t as difficult as you might believe. At some point in your life, you’ve probably had someone tell you to “fake it ’til you make it.” To some degree, I do agree with this sentiment. When you’re trying to build up your confidence, faking it is…