Positive Self-Talk Helped Me Take Back Control of My Life

Positive self-talk is much more complex than repeating a mantra in front of my bathroom mirror every morning. It’s a direct reflection of how I value myself, especially when life doesn’t go my way.

Focusing on creating a more positive inner voice has helped to transform my negative thought processes into motivation and create strength out of negativity.

The day I started applying positive self-talk to my life was the day I began living intentionally again.

Rather than obtaining a new skillset, I discovered my own existing potential. I now have confidence in my capability to successfully set and reach my own goals, and the drive to continue when faced with obstacles.

Each of us has an “inner-voice,” aka self-talk or inner speech, which is the continuous internal monologue that we have during consciousness. Sometimes we are more aware of it than others, but our inner-voice is always active.

Depending on whether or not this running monologue is positive substantially affects our emotions, self-image, problem-solving, planning, and even more.

My first step in positive self-talk was correcting negative phrases with positive ones or positive action. If I caught myself thinking, “this task is too difficult for me to accomplish,” I’d get up and start working on the task anyway.

Negative thoughts can completely shut down any bit of self-esteem and cause inaction. In order to be productive and proactive, I’ve realized that the first step is to start with transforming my habitual thoughts.

Over time, proactivity became natural for me, but there are still times where I find myself consciously correcting negative thoughts. Keeping up a positive mindset is a constant process.

Negative self-talk, aka the inner critic, is much more powerful than it may seem. It’s absolutely habit and that can be unlearned. However, negative thought habits can form into beliefs, making the thoughts much more impactful, regardless of how brief.


Before I ever considered positive self-talk, I felt like I was stuck in a rut. I wanted to be successful, but I didn’t believe I had the ability to do so, leaving me essentially motionless.

I would look at other people and think, “I wish I could do what they’re doing.” Transforming that thought into “They’re really killing it. They inspire me to put more energy into my own work.”

I had to change my mindset to put myself in the position for opportunity and growth. Creating motivation out of negative thoughts has made life much more fulfilling.

Beliefs shape the way that we perceive reality. Even if we think we’re being objective, our perceptions still affect the way we see the world around us. Perceptions about ourselves can make us undermine our true power. Naturally, the more negative our inner voices are, the more limits we set for ourselves.

I certainly didn’t create a positive mindset for myself overnight. Getting out of the habit of my negative self-talk was (and still is) a huge challenge. It took about two years to get to the place that I am now, from the time that I began trying to make a change.


The brain is the most powerful organ our the bodies. So, it makes sense that what we think and believe about ourselves, we will likely outwardly reflect and embody, as well as seek out and achieve (or not seek out and achieve).

Thoughts spoken into existence is also important to keep in mind and can be even more powerful than silent ones. Spoken thoughts are given a voice and a life, no matter how brief or jokingly they’re said. Not only do we literally hear the phrases we say out loud, but others do too.

Speaking negatively about ourselves illustrates to others how they should speak to us, as well as how they should speak to themselves.

Positive self-talk has provided me with a much greater sense of motivation and commitment to my projects and responsibilities. Life is more peaceful with a sense of choice and control.


Has positive self-talk been useful to you? In what ways has changing your mindset transformed your life?

3 Comments

  • Richard

    Another great blog. What also helps me in addition to developing positive self talk is to resist associating with negative thoughts. Our mind and it’s thoughts are wonderful aspects of being human, but we are not our minds and the mind is there to serve the greater ‘us’ not the other way around.

    • Mary Beth Tillery

      Richard, thank you so much for your comment! You are right, we cannot let our emotions guide us. We are so much more powerful than we realize!

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