• When to Speak Up and When to Listen Up

    Now is the time, more than ever, to harness our voices for the betterment of our world. Seeing the collective consciousness demanding positive transformation is inspiring- People all around the world are standing up against the systemic oppression of black people in the United States. As many of us know, none of this violence or oppression toward black people is new. The only changing factor is our organized and unified stance against this injustice. The changes that have been made since the beginning of the protests, sparked especially by the insensible murder of George Floyd, are proof that that our voices are capable of making a difference, but we still…

  • Happiness Is Linked To The Music We Listen To

    It feels like we’re constantly listening to music. We play it in our homes, on car rides, and when hanging out with friends. We even hear it when we’re out shopping or eating at our favorite restaurants. If you’re like me, you may even keep your headphones in for most of the day. But what impact are our music choices having on our level of happiness and satisfaction with life? Most of us have noticed that music can sway our emotions, causing us to feel happy and energized in one song, and then sad and lonely in the next. There is no doubt that the instrumental aspect of a song…

  • Positive Self-Talk Helped Me Take Back Control of My Life

    Positive self-talk is much more complex than repeating a mantra in front of my bathroom mirror every morning. It’s a direct reflection of how I value myself, especially when life doesn’t go my way. Focusing on creating a more positive inner voice has helped to transform my negative thought processes into motivation and create strength out of negativity. The day I started applying positive self-talk to my life was the day I began living intentionally again. Rather than obtaining a new skillset, I discovered my own existing potential. I now have confidence in my capability to successfully set and reach my own goals, and the drive to continue when faced…

  • I Regret Being Disrespectful To My Mom: Here’s How We Communicate Now

    It seems like it’s pretty common for mothers and daughters to struggle with communication. Living with someone in close quarters can create tension. My mom and I are certainly no exception. As both incredibly strong-willed women who enjoy argument (you know it’s true, Mom! LOL), we were at odds a good bit of the time, when I was growing up. Neither of us usually ever backed down and we both almost always wanted the last word. Little did I know that my mother actually does know best, and it would have done me some good to listen every now and then. In high school, my attitude progressed to its worst…

  • How to Make a Positive First Impression Every Time

    When I was younger, I had no inclination of the importance of a good first impression. I was full of awkwardness and emotions and completely unsure of how to deal with it all, which probably applied to all of us at some point. Allowing negativity to take over, I feared change and resisted making any effort at the beginning of new friendships and relationships. I later realized that the more negativity I put into the world, the more I negativity I got back. The better choice would have been to allow love and friendship into my life, which would have sooner facilitated my self-growth. I’ve learned that starting off on…

  • I Silenced My Voice and Lost My Authenticity

    I had an aching feeling that people didn’t know the real me. I felt like each day I was treated and talked to in ways that didn’t reflect who I was at all. As much as I hated this and I couldn’t be fully myself, I struggled to use my voice to speak up and communicate who I was with the world around me. I was afraid of losing the comfortable sense of identity that I had gained among my friends and acquaintances. But at the same time, I wanted desperately to be myself. It felt like I was a caricature of what others thought of me. I envied those…

  • How to Really Apologize

    Saying you’re sorry can feel incredibly intimidating, especially if your pride is exceptionally strong, which can get in the way of the ability to be fully sympathetic with another person in conflict. The good news is there’s a way to improve And, what exactly makes an apology sincere? Emotional display is key for the success of your apology. If you’re angry or on the verge of tears, your apology probably won’t be received the way you intend, no matter how pure your intentions are. You can research and try all kinds of ways to get yourself into the right mindset for an apology. The fastest and easiest way to obtain…

  • 6 Tips to Start Speaking Your Mind

    Assertive communication involves getting your point across in the most direct and open way possible, while still remaining cool and collected. It takes confidence to put your thoughts into clear words. Click here to first learn more about how to strengthen your confidence. Just the idea of being assertive can absolutely feel intimidating. When you do so, you’re allowing yourself to be vulnerable, which is probably you’re real fear: not being assertive. When you’re young, speaking up against the school bully sounds like the last thing you want to partake in. It may be that you’re still afraid to speak up to or against others now, as an adult. Some…

  • How To Create Confidence

    Very few people are born with natural, unbreakable confidence. The rest of us are forced to create it pretty much out of thin air… or we never do. The choice is ours. Of course, I’m talking about self-confidence in this context. It’s defined by the Oxford Dictionary as, “a feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.” Embodying confidence isn’t as difficult as you might believe. At some point in your life, you’ve probably had someone tell you to “fake it ’til you make it.” To some degree, I do agree with this sentiment. When you’re trying to build up your confidence, faking it is…

  • Bullying Isn’t Going Anywhere

    Bullying is an issue that unfortunately doesn’t seem to go away much with age or maturity. I wouldn’t have appreciated hearing this when I was going through it in middle school, but I probably needed to. Middle school was a challenging time for me. It seems to be that way for most people. According to DoSomething.org, “90% of 4th through 8th graders report being victims of bullying.” That’s almost everyone, which indicates many students are likely being bullied while simultaneously bullying others. I attended a small private Catholic school, from kindergarten through 8th grade, with roughly 25 students in each grade. Elementary school was relatively easy going and I developed…